Daily Dose, May 8 — Roots & Wings

 

“And, fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” (Ephesians 6:4)

We all have a button that raises the hair on our back when someone pushes it.

All anyone has to do is to say anything positive about President Trump, and my friend Marci goes ballistic.

Strong marriages benefit from a healthy respect for the buttons that belong to our spouse.

Our children have buttons that provoke anger when they get pushed. I bumped into Aaron’s wrath once when I embarrassed him in front of his friends. My bad. Talking about how things happened to be when I was in high school never seemed to be helpful to my high school aged sons.

Including them when we made important decisions about our life as a family was a good button to push. Paul’s advice on raising our children in the discipline and instruction of the Lord can and should be done without provoking anger.

Allowing our children to have a strong say in their own lives is a smart move. The goal is to parent so that the seeds of obedience grow and bear the fruit of self-discipline. Sure, at times you have to put your foot down and set the boundaries that make family life well-ordered and enjoyable for everyone. But we don’t need to stomp or scream, unless they are about to step in front of a speeding car. — Y’all come, Dr. Don