Daily Dose, May 11 — Roots & Wings

 

Then Peter came and said to him, “Lord, if another member of the church sins against me, how often should I forgive? As many as seven times?” Jesus said to him, “Not seven times, but, I tell you, seventy-seven times.” Matthew 18:21-22

The goal is to help our children succeed. Part of that success is learning how to play in the sandbox together. Our children must learn how to get along with other people. They are going to live in frustration and isolation if they fail to acquire the skills and character necessary to a connected life.

We tend to think that, if they make A’s, they will move easily toward success. Grades and intelligence do matter, but the facts prove that more is required to reach success. Social scientists are beginning to discover that grit and character are essential to success. These traits are not measured on the SAT.

For instance, kids need to learn how to forgive. There is simply no way to be in a meaningful long-term relationship without developing the character necessary to forgiveness. Deep and lasting friendships and marriages happen when people learn how to say, “I’m sorry. I was wrong.” And “Don’t worry about it — it’s in the past.”

Jesus was and is an outstanding teacher of the non-cognitive skills that lead to a happy life. I know that you are busy, but take five minutes right now and read Matthew 18:21-35, and ask yourself, “Are my children learning the importance of forgiving other people?” The teachings of Jesus give our children the foundation they need to build a great life. — Y’all come, Dr. Don